Fathering is a daunting and complex task. Effective fathering requires so much more than paying school fees, providing food and clothes for the family. The industrial revolution across the globe exerted significant impact on the role of the father in the family. Many dads, and grandpas and great grandpas left home for the factory and fathering was literarily relegated to the limited roles of bread winner of the home. At most, a disciplinarian of last resort in the home. Women took over the job of raising the kids at home, and this made fatherhood a more or less a periphery phenomenon in child’s upbringing. Through a variety of research studies, I have made, I came to conclusion that the ultimate destiny of the child is determined by function of the father and not that of the mother. Children look up to the father as the role model of the home. He is the one that determine and regulate the moral temperature of the home.
I have attempted to providing term impeccable universal laws for effective fathering during recession as follows:
1. Law of Emotive Relationship with Kids: Children usually have high pump of adrenalins that makes them quiet emotional all the time. It is the responsibility of a father or mother to channel this emotive impulses righty to create positive atmosphere of family relationship. The father-child relationship evokes powerful emotion in kids that is unique and significant to a fault which is completely different from the mother-child relationship. The more a father stays with the child the higher the emotional bonding and the stronger the influences he (i.e. the father) exert on the child. It is even believed by some school of thought: that a child that was raised by effective fathering usually escape certain juvenile delinquent acts later in schools and in dealing with others in the neighborhood.

2. Law of Skillful Fathering: Another word for skillful in this context is effective. Effective father calls for sets of skillful tool kits and bag full of resourceful knowledge. Ability to give birth to child is the function endowed upon men and women by Mother Nature. A man is not same as a father, and likewise a woman is not same as a mother: To be come an effective father you must be prepare in both mind and hands to set the stage to model the roles or cast characteristics traits that you would like your child to posses. Making provision of this stage married to closely knit masterful arts and skills to produce the role model that will exert a lifetime influence on your child is what makes an effective fathering.
I must make haste to opine here that the more often you update your skills in this regard the better result you achieve at the end of the day, and the lesser skills you have the more venerable your child becomes in the society. A child who has a “man” at home that smoke pipe will end up smoking pipes and taking drugs. The folk who make out time to train his children always come out with the envy of the society.
3. Law of Replacement –Fathering:- Horribly enough the 21st century marked significant era of collapses of families across the globe. Divorce is the buzz word that the welfare every minutes of the day. I do not just see this from this vantage point. I try to go beyond the mask of divorce to sort out the causes at the background. In several homes from USA to Asia, Caribbean’s to Australia and from Europe to Africa. The television popularly known as TV, Maids, Nurses, Boyfriends, the public schooled school systems, and host of other models, have replaced the warmth role more role of a true Father. While father are either away on board a plane, Junketing the earth axes for business deals or absconded from the home, these pseudo models replaced his role for the children. I strongly believe that if this imbalance or social malaise is not checked adequately on time use may all prepare for a doomsday in the future. Already the happenings around us should suggest this to our minds. The Drug addicts what do they teach their children about peace and sustainable development in the society. What value paradigm guards their daily parenting of their children is a question every same mind should ask? Because somebody in the nearest future, our well trained and focused children will inevitably suffer the worst social crisis ever on Earth when ill-fated children would have had grown into adults to continue from where their drug-addicted and drunken parents stopped. This is a food for though! I request for your feedback, comment, criticism and updates in this regard. Invite your friends to read this article and debate over it.

“Watch out for what effective father
Ritchie Felix
Youth Development Specialistdo”